Sleep


Sometime over the last couple of weeks, Marcel began reaching the light switch without getting on a stool or chair.  Just prior to that, Marcel learned to turn door knobs.

Meanwhile, Tristan combined two skills–turning over and putting something in her mouth–when she rolled to her side, pulled her pacifier into her mouth and went to sleep.

The biggest development on the new achievements scale, however, was when Marcel peed in her bed.

This had never happened before because, frankly, my wife and I were conscientious about putting Marcel in pull-ups at bedtime.  This night, however, we weren’t conscientious.

The next morning, Marcel jumped into our bed and got under the covers.  Everything was unusual about this.

Normally, if she wakes up before us, she just calls for us to come get her out of bed.  If she does come into our room, she usually declines getting into bed and, instead, urges us to take her downstairs for chocolate milk and television.  On very rare occasions, she’ll get into bed with us, and she did just that this time.

And when she did, I noticed that her pajama pants did not match her pajama top.

Mismatch pajamas aren’t just rare in our household.  They are nonexistent.  My wife is a stickler for things like that, so when Marcel hopped into bed with mismatch pajamas, not only did my antenna shoot up, but my mouth shot open.

“Marcel,” I queried, “what happened to your pajamas?”

“I changed them,” she responded.  She refused, however, to explain why.  She just got into our bed as happy as could be.  Like mismatch pajamas, Marcel changing her bottoms is nonexistent.

Even as a newborn, Marcel never much minded dirty diapers.  I distinctly remember telling our favorite Argentinian musician how grateful I was for that trait, only to have him educate me on the pitfalls of rarely-changed, over-full diapers.  Warnings notwithstanding, Marcel and I came to learn the consequences of delayed diaper changes the hard way, including Marcel becoming comfortable with wet and soiled underwear…while sitting on the sofa.

So to hear say that she changed herself, unprompted, raised all kind of alarms bells.  I got out of bed to check on her room.  When I entered her room, I found an even more startling thing:  I found a made bed.

Now, my wife is about as anal about makign the bed as she is about storing pajamas in matching sets, but I never seen her teach Marcel how to make a bed and never seen Marcel actually care about making a bed.  I mean, she’ll tell that it’s her job to make the chocolate milk, cook the dinner or plant the flowers.  She does not, however, tell you that it’s her job to make the bed.  But that morning, it was.

And it was my job to unmake it.

When I pulled back the covers, my suspicions were confirmed.  The tell-tale wet spot revealed that Marcel had peed in the bed.  But far from being upset, I was grateful.  Marcel was finally ashamed of messing herself.  And, for the next couple of days, Marcel insisted on going to the potty before the “rain and mud” came.

We’re told we aren’t supposed to shame our children into potty training.  I’m not sure we could if we were allowed.  (She’s way too cute to punish, really.)  But, given the results, I was sure glad Marcel was willing to take up the cudgel.

Marcel started sleeping through the night at 3 weeks. Even as a new parent, I was shocked by that.

I distinctly remember waking up, seeing the sun high in the sky, feeling rested and wonderful and wondering, “why does this seemed so strange?” Then I remembered why. Every night for the past three weeks, my newborn baby girl had routinely waken me up several times a night and often late enough for me to see the sun rise. Last night, however, she did not wake.

Of course, the next immediate thought was…SIDS!

I jumped out of bed, but kept quiet so as not to unnecessarily wake up my still sleeping wife. “Sweet Jesus,” I prayed it was not necessary. I jumped out of the bed and ran for the co-sleeper but, just before I got there, I hesitated. For the briefest of seconds I considered stealing myself before looking. I plunged ahead, anyway.

Perhaps because I was so worried, or maybe just because the blood had rushed out of my head as I had raised up, but I couldn’t immediately discern Marcel’s state. She just laid there, still as a statute of an angel. The sight made me catch my breath, but I leaned in further and, as if on cue, she sighed.

And so did I.

Maybe it was because of the fright, but probably because of the previous weeks’ sleep deprivation, I so very much appreciated Marcel’s new found trick.

Maybe it was because I grew to depend on it, or maybe because no one should be so lucky, but Tristan did not start sleeping through the night at three weeks. My newest, newborn baby girl waited until this week, our seventh week of living in her world.

And that’s damn good, too.